Sunday, March 1, 2009

SORRY..Hope you understand

This post is specifically for the sisters during last Pre Graduation Dinner which was held on 28 Feb 09 at Seri Pacific Hotel,Kuala Lumpur.

Actually I was a little bit shocked as some of the sisters intended to take pictures personally between me and her. I never expect sisters to have that kind of request to snap photos with me.

I'm so sorry as I couldn't fulfill your request as I have my own principals.If you wanted to take pics with me,please bring along some of your friends together which to be included in the photos or I need some other brothers together in the pictures.NO PERSONAL PICTURES please.

I'm sorry if yesterday I have invited some of my male friends to join in your "PERSONAL PHOTOS"

I have reasons in doing those things.



1)I had swear to Allah that I will be a good Dai'e and Murobbi.Thus,it is wajib/compulsory for me to avoid anything which will affect my credibility as a Dai'e.I don't want to make "Fitnah" to myself or to Islam itself.Can you imagine,when the "PERSONAL PICTURES" been seen by others?Then people start to make noise saying that:

'How come Nabil can have a pictures with girls?He said Islam is like this and this but he didn't implemented it!Huh..'

or even people will say like this:

Ish3...what kind of Muslim he is?Convey Islam to others but his Akhlaq didn't reflect what he said so..Huh..Blah la!!'

Making worse, it makes my works as Dai'e more difficult if my Mad'u or my Sahabat saw it..
The most important is,Allah will knows that I have broke my swear to HIM..Na'uzubillah..

2)I pray to Allah to give me a good/solehah wife.Thus,in order for that,I have to improve myself to be as soleh as possible.I couldn't imagine one day if I get married and suddenly my wife saw the "PERSONAL PHOTOS" between me and other girls..What's her feeling that time?My husband with other girls?Although she might not say it infront of me,but her sadness couldn't be cured.I don't want to do that to my future wife.



Besides,I tried to put myself in that situation.I also have the jealous feeling if I saw my future wife with other man in a photo.If I felt so,she also may feel the same feeling.

I hope the sisters could understand my stand and we try our best to be a good Muslims.
Our life doesn't finish here,but we will be in either two; Paradise or Hell
May Allah bless and forgives us on what we have done.Ameen...

13 comments:

kmjn said...

Cukup menginsafkan diriku yg begitu mengidam bini yg solehah dan cantik tp slalu alpa dlm mendidik diri sendiri utk menjadi seorg lelaki yg soleh..

ukur kira said...

Alhmdulillah..still not too late to make the change,Insya Allah

menggapai redha ilahi said...

yes...prinsip

ing said...

menginsafkan...
U r much strongger than me..
Pls pray 4 me my dearest Nabil..

ukur kira said...

To Ing:I'm not really strong.Just to share,when we felt weak,remember we have Allah together with us.Then Allah will give us the strength insya Allah

Budak QS said...

I just want to say...
maybe it is just a request...
u can just said "no,thankx"...
its ok I think...becoz she already knows u...
What u have said seems that she really want to take pic with u...
x baik anggap org cm2...
for me..she really dun mind if u dun want to...

ukur kira said...

To budak QS:If u said taht..."for me..she really dun mind if u dun want to"(quoted frm ur comments)
I also can say,for me, she really dun mind if I did such so..
It's too rude to tolak her request.Furthermore, it's infront her friends.
Personally,I think it's better to take the pic together with the others.At least, she got the chance to smile withe the rest of our friends.
One more thing,ada saya anggap orang/dia teruk ke?
I respect her and this is btween my principal and her.

Budak QS said...

For me...It do sounds bad when you actually make a post because of it....
Ok..it's between ur principle and her...
and her you are referring seems someone I know...means she is my friend...
She do said about ur belief/principle before taking the picture...she hesitate...
its me who encourage her to ask u first.....(my belief is dun just assume...u must ask before jump into conclusion)
and i know...its my fault in the first place...and i want to say sorry for that...
i should just belief her...
and I do respect u as who u are...
sorry again...

ukur kira said...

to budak QS:Ok.me too.I'm sorry if u n her felt been oppressed.I'm not always right.Thanks for ur comments.I viewed it in other perspective while u n her in other way.This entry is just my view on it.Nothing to do with oppressing anybody's dignity.Again,sorry for that..I respect all sisters..

LuQMaN M.J said...

salam
I do agree with what have my brother wrote. As a muslim, we should have our principles in life. what can be done and what cannot be done. A true muslim will base his principles in line with what had ALLAH commanded in the Quran.

What can I say is, there are not really many boys out there that have this kind of principles..

ukur kira said...

To LuQMaN M.J:Thanks bro..May Allah give us strength to stand affirms in His path.

BARAN said...

You choose the right way..stay ther,never change.

ukur kira said...

To Baran:Tq Baran for ur support.